During the first few months after a loss, many signs and symptoms of normal grief are the same as those of complicated grief. However, while normal grief symptoms gradually start to fade over time, those of complicated grief linger or get worse. Complicated grief is like being in an ongoing, heightened state of mourning that keeps you from healing.
Signs and symptoms of complicated grief may include:
• Intense sorrow, pain and rumination over the loss
• Focus on little else but your baby’s death
• Extreme focus on reminders of the circumstances in which your baby died, or excessive avoidance of reminders
• Intense and persistent longing or pining for your baby/ies.
• Problems accepting the death
• Numbness or detachment
• Bitterness about your loss
• Feeling that life holds no meaning or purpose
• Lack of trust in others
• Inability to enjoy life
Complicated grief also may be indicated if you continue to:
• Have trouble carrying out normal routines
• Isolate from others and withdraw from social activities
• Experience depression, deep sadness, guilt or self-blame
• Believe that you did something wrong or could have prevented the loss
• Feel life isn't worth living without your baby
• Wish you had died along with your baby