The Secret of Miscarriage Support

Is there much miscarriage support or still-birth support in the UK? 

No there isn’t and why not?!?!?! 

Did you know:
•    10 babies are stillborn every day in Britain; in 2014 this amounted to 3,563 deaths.  
•    Just as shockingly, Britain ranks 21st out of 35 of the world’s wealthy nations in terms of stillbirth rates.
•    1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage.  
•    About 1 in 100 women in the UK experience recurrent miscarriages.  
•    One third of women in the UK attending specialist clinics as a result of miscarriage are clinically depressed.  

This shows a real need for accessible miscarriage support services across the country.
There are a handful of associations around the UK to support people who have suffered infant loss – The Miscarriage Association, Tommy’s, Child Bereavement UK and Sands.  These organisations offer support to people who have suffered infant loss.  Here in Merseyside, The Honeysuckle Team at Liverpool Women’s Hospital hold a monthly support group to anyone who has suffered infant loss also.

But I can find those because I am really looking for them – can other women find them when they are struggling after experiencing a miscarriage? 

We need to break the taboo and talk about miscarriage and still-birth.  

It should be standard procedure that all patients who suffer are given a wealth of information which can be easily accessed, including a list of the associations offering miscarriage support. More often than not, it is not until someone is deep into depression that support is offered and I still don’t believe that the problem is dealt with at the cause then either.

It needs to be recognised that these events are extremely traumatic and psychologically painful.  Miscarriage and still-birth affect not only women but men too. The grief and loss ripples out to their other children, their close family members and their friends.

It is no less traumatising for someone who has an early miscarriage in pregnancy – hopes and dreams are still shattered.

It is time that these events are no longer shushed with denial and by treading on egg-shells. The parents need as much help as any other person experiencing depression and grief and perhaps even more specialist services to help them.   

If you are someone who has found this blog because you have suffered a miscarriage or infant loss, there are some places offering support, including us. 

If you need help to find somewhere that offers miscarriage support and don’t know where to start, please do contact us and we will gladly help you, even if you just need someone to talk to firstly. 

We are here for you.

Find out more about our miscarriage support retreats here.

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